Here’s The Tea Sis
Let me catch you up on my life
I’m not sure what it is about this year that has life traveling at the speed of light. It feels like 2024 just started two months ago but somehow it’s September already. Christmas is in 3 months!! This is not a drill people!
I started this year with good intentions of writing more and being consistent, and I’m here to say that I haven’t done that. If consistency is what separates winners from wannabes, then I’m here to tell you I’m a wannabe. But I’m working on it. Let me not bury the lead here and get to the hot gossip.
I went on my first first date in almost a decade over a month ago, and while it may not have been a love match, and I was left a little disappointed, I still learned a few things.
If You’re Going To Ask God To Lead You, You Better Be Okay With Him Saying No
Surrender am I right? It’s super easy to sing songs like, “I want to be tried by fire, purified,” or “you can have it all Lord.” It’s much harder to actually walk that out and live a life that’s fully surrendered not just talk about it. It’s not fun or easy, but it’s worth it.
2. Leave People Better Than You Found Them
I’ve got my daddy’s temper and a low tolerance for disrespect so this isn’t always an easy one. But dating is hard, life is too, and in a world where ghosting is the norm, I think everyone could use a little kindness. As much as you are able, I think you should always try to leave people a little better than you’ve found them. But don’t get it twisted, your girl is half hood half holy, that means pray with me don’t play with me.
3. God Will Never Let You Down
There’s a song we sing at church all the time —I know I’m talking about songs a lot but music is kind of my thing— King of my heart. There’s a part of this song that says, “You’re never gonna let me down” Talking about God. I think sometimes we feel let down by God, when in reality we’re really just let down by not getting the outcome that we expected. Has God ever failed? Ever not come through? If I really stop to think about it, the answer is no. Sure I’ve felt disappointed, I know I was in this situation. But my prayer in dating and also in life is this, “Lord would you lead me and guide me. Would you help protect my heart and those I’m in relationship with. Give me wisdom and discernment to make the right choices because I want every little thing that you have for me and not a single thing that you don’t.
Would I have preferred for this situation to not have been a character development lesson? Oh absolutely. And while I can’t say that in every situation I have the maturity to say I know everything worked out the way it should have., in this situation I know it did. As strange as it sounds, I’m learning to let God be God. He’s in control, He’s got this, and when we live a life fully surrendered and allow him to truly lead us, the results are always better than they would have been if we had done everything on our own.
So there’s the tea sis… tune in next time for another episode of Days of Our Lives, until then stay golden.
Sincerely,